Father Figures: Happy Father’s Day

Numesh Acharya
(Supplied/Numesh Acharya)

“I had a mini heart attack at 2 am in the morning when my wife woke me up and said, ‘I think my water’s broke.’

Later that morning, our champ Ayden was born. It was an awesome and proud moment, becoming a dad for the first time ever. I was thinking of all the things I was going to do with Ayden. Until I had been awake for 72 hours and I was feeling like a zombie (wife had a c-section).

That’s when I said to myself: ‘Yup, this is what being a father is. Sacrifice! Sacrifice! And nothing but sacrifice!’

It is. But obviously, the results are not disappointing.

It is the best thing in the world to be a father. But if you cannot sacrifice and still want to act as if you do not have a baby, do it before you plan to be. It is the truth, there will be restrictions, and when I say restrictions I really mean it. My statement is in no way a discouraging one because you can do it together, you, your wife and your kiddo. But you just can’t act like you used to.

I used to come home from work for my wife until we had Ayden. Now, it’s for Ayden and my wife. I feel like that is the sole purpose of my existence: to come home hug and kiss him and sing a song for him. God made my wife for me and Ayden for both of us. He is about to be 5 months and I cannot wait for him to say “Dada.” And there is not a single moment that I have regretted this.

Happy Father’s Day to all dads out there.”

– Numesh Acharya

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Father Figures: The Constant

Markey
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“My husband is a hospital chaplain and pastor.

He is responsible for speaking words of love and comfort to those who are hurting.
He works 6 days a week sometimes 7.


He does this so that I can stay home with our son.
He gets up early in the mornings and tends to the baby so I can sleep.
He will get called into the hospital for a case where a child has been run over in the street by a family member.
He will get called for an old man who has just passed away and his family is grieving.
He will get called to the bedside of a baby born too soon and give words of comfort and love to the parents.

My husband sees humanity at its most vulnerable. He is able to spread love and joy to all he comes across. He ministers not only to the sick and dying but to their families, their caregivers, and the hospital staff.

In the midst of this, he still finds time to make our son laugh. When baby hears Dad’s car pull in he gets so excited. He flaps his little arms like he could take off and fly around the room. Then Daddy comes in the door and oh, the squeal of delight! He launches himself towards his dad and his dad always responds with a smile, a hug, and kiss.

Even with all the ups and downs of parenting, marriage and his job Jeff Munive is constant. He is our steady rock keeping our family on course.”

– Markey Munive

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The Dad of the Month May 2019 – Ernie Rospierski

(Ernie Rospierski)

We are happy to announce The Dad of the Month for May 2019: Ernie Rospierski. A dedicated father and educator, Ernie has shown bravery and compassion through his wife’s difficult pregnancy, childbirth, and recovery, and in his job teaching at Stoneman Douglas High School. Read Ernie’s nomination submitted by his wife:

“Ernie Rospierski is my husband and a truly amazing father to our son, also named Ernie Rospierski. Ernie is a very engaged dad who has been through so much the last few years. Our son was born 10 weeks premature and stayed in the NICU for 51 days before we were able to finally bring him home. Prior to his birth, I was on permanent hospital bedrest for 29 days. Ernie was with me every day. He kept me sane and calm while we were both scared and uncertain about the survival of our unborn child.


When the time came, I nearly died giving birth to our boy and again a month later due to complications from the delivery. I know Ernie was just as scared as I was, but he held it together and we made it through with a healthy boy who is now almost 3. Ernie is a caring, compassionate, and dedicated father who spends as much time as he can with our son and with me.

My husband and I are both teachers at Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. On February 14, 2018 my class and I evacuated our building, but Ernie nearly lost his life when he was grazed by 2 bullets in the process of protecting students. My husband is a selfless man who puts his family and his students before himself. I am a better mother, wife, and person because of him, and I am ecstatic to be raising our son with him.”

To honor Ernie’s resilience and courage in fatherhood and beyond we’re giving him $500 and special edition dad gear. Enjoy. Thank you for being a role model for your son and students and dads everywhere. We salute you.

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Father Figures: Act of Service

Sarah Talbot
(Supplied/Sarah Talbot)

“I had 2 little girls when we adopted our third daughter, who has Down Syndrome.

Five months later we were surprised by an expected pregnancy. A few months after our 4th daughter was born, our daughter’s birth mother reached out and told us she was pregnant again. She wanted us to adopt him.

We did! We had 3 babies under the age of 3, an 8-year-old and a 6-year-old.

My dad called one day and asked if he could help me. He was working full-time but was able to leave work a few hours early once a week. He came every Thursday afternoon and stayed until they were all in bed to give me a break. He did it for over a year.

That was 7 years ago, but it still gives me a lump in my throat to think of his kind act of service. He is the absolute best.

This is my mom and dad with our 6 kids. (Yep…we had one more!)”

– Sarah Talbot

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Father Figures: Fly By

Nathan Levesque

“I never knew just how fast it would all fly by.

Below is a picture of my two children this time last year. I just sat in a chair and silently observed their playful interaction. I took this picture because for the first time in my life I realized just how fast everything goes.

My son was going to start kindergarten in just a couple of months. Like holy moly!

Nothing will ever prepare you for the speed each day goes past, but every once in a while just observe and enjoy the beauty that is being a father surrounds you with.”

– Nathan Levesque

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Father Figures: Recital Ready

Robbie Medlin

“So Thursday was my daughters dress rehearsal for her big dance recital over the weekend and of course my wife had to work and I had to take her.

Five minutes before I leave, my wife texts me and says she has to be ‘recital ready except for makeup,’ fake curly hair and all.

I tried. And I’m damn proud of my attempt and decide to send a picture to my wife.

The first picture is the text thread my wife decided to share on Facebook for all of her female friends to laugh at, and the second is what it’s supposed to look like after a heroic, sympathetic dance mom completely swoops in to save the day in the lobby of the rehearsal.

This shouldn’t be put on any dad. Ever.”

– Robbie Medlin

High Bun

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Father Figures: Sweet and Sour

Manuel González

“I always joked about having a kid and doing some crazy things with him, you know, classic stuff, going to the stadium, playing video games…

But I never imagined taking care of a newborn.

I’ve always had a comfortable life where I could do everything I wanted to, then my little Franco came up, and I thought I could keep that rhythm…

Oh boy, reality hits you hard: sleepless nights, doctor visits, no breaks, bye Xbox, bye Crossfit…

I got so depressed that sometimes I regretted it, but now he is 1 year old, he won my heart little by little, and I just can’t stand one day without playing with him. Being a father is sweet and sour.”

– Manuel González

Manuel González

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Father Figures: She Forgave Me

BERNIE DEL GADILLO

“I used to be a heavy drinker and as a result my relationship with my daughters mother was very turbulent.

We ended up splitting up and I would rarely see my daughter because I chose drinking and partying over her.

A few years passed this way, but my daughter was always a daddy’s girl. She would always call me or ask her mom to take her to Daddy’s house to see me.

In all honestly, I cannot tell you what changed everything for me. All the mistakes that I made as a father just hit me all at once and it totally broke me emotionally. I picked up my daughter and asked for her forgiveness for being an absentee dad all those years and she forgave me.

Till this day I try and be the best dad I can be to her and although I still have slip-ups now and then with the binge drinking, it is nowhere close to what it was before.”

– Bernie Del Gadillo

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Father Figures: What I Could Be

Aaron Provancha

“Growing up, my dad was a selfish womanizer who thought more about himself than he ever did his kids. Routinely, he would come home scream at my brother and me, then leave to go out cheating on my mom.

What my father did scared me into never wanting kids as I was afraid I would become him. When I was 29, I graduated from college after going back to start a new career, with a major in physics. About to start a new life, my wife told me she was pregnant.

I didn’t speak to her about it for three days as I had a flash of all the hardship my father had put on my family. I realized that didn’t have to be me and although I get mad at my boys sometimes, I have never scared them into hiding in a closet or hiding behind their mom for fear of what might happen to them.

Those boys saved me from being afraid of what I might be, and helped me see what I could be. Be the best dad you can be, not the dad you had.

Aaron and Levi, my whole world, without you my life is nothing. I love you.”

– Aaron Provancha

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Father Figures: He Taught Us

Rose Consuegra

“I left the father of my child when she was 9 months old. He sits in jail now for abusing me and my

But that’s not why I’m writing you.

It’s about this man… Adam.

We met via online app, when I was at my worst. And he took me and my kid in. He has taught us what love and respect is all about.

He has raised my kid since she was a little over a year old, changed her diapers, taught me how to help her sleep on her own, potty trained her, and cared for us ever since. He’s a single dad himself, of a beautiful 9-year-old-girl.

He’s the proof that God exists, when I had no hope and love for anything, he helped us rebuild our lives from scratch… he’s my daughter’s father, no doubt.

We’re getting married in one month and my kid is so happy. And so am I. He came from a broken home and today we both are rebuilding our lives and breaking any chains from the past.”

– Rose Consuegra

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Father Figures: A Flame

“The timing of my fiancee’s pregnancy was anything but perfect, with us living in different states and having trouble finding a house.

I was terrified of fatherhood because of who my father was[n’t]. For a time during which many would be excited, I had feelings of doom inside of me. I was already expecting this pending happiness to one day turn to pain.

Magnolia coming into our lives ignited a flame that steadily rages inside me, incinerating every fear of some other man I once dreaded becoming.

200 words or less could never do justice to what being a father means to me. The joy is monumental compared to anything else in life.”

– Nathan Davis

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Father Figures: Still Can’t Believe

Adam Cole Father Figures

“I was at Home Depot when I got the call. From the look on my face, the friend I was with immediately knew what I had heard over the phone.

Months later we were in the hospital, my wife was being induced the day before my son’s due date. A few hours passed and the next thing I know I’m cutting the cord and staring at this beautiful cone headed son of mine. Tears welled in my eyes as I thought of the future before us.

4.5 years and a second son later, I still can’t believe I’m a dad.

Each day brings their ups and downs but I wouldn’t change it for the world. There is nothing that matches watching the changes your own children go through day after day. I feel like it was just yesterday that I held this small (not really, 9 pounds!) baby boy in my arms, but next year he’ll be going to school, and the other is catching up quick.

I don’t even remember what it was like to have a house that wasn’t overrun with Hot Wheels cars and “Paw Patrol” toys. Time flies, It’ll surprise you, but don’t let it pass you by. Take advantage of every day you have because they’ll never be this age again.”

– Adam Cole

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Father Figures: Changed My Life

“I was very young – too young. But I was excited anyway.

My dad wasn’t a great example and I didn’t have much of a relationship with him when I was growing up. I was determined to be a better father to my daughter than he was to me.

The moment she was born was the first time in my life I think I had a real feeling that I didn’t push down; I was overcome and speechless. The midwife asked me to announce it was a girl. I just stood there with my mouth hanging open. Somehow, through my tears, I cut the umbilical cord and she had my heart forever.

She doesn’t speak to me now because she’s mad. She’s 22 and knows she’s right about everything. And I’m pretty sure she gets that from me. But I’m proud of her and I love her and I’m still hers forever.

She changed my life.”

– Peter Ferrari

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