“Eddie is the kind of person who seeks mastery and sets out to do everything to the very best of his ability, so I wasn’t surprised when Eddie threw himself into fatherhood wholeheartedly.
Eddie took on a new, more stressful position so that I could stay home with our kids and he was still up at night alternating feedings/diaper changes with me. He comes in the door and doesn’t even change clothes before he jumps into full-effort parenting. He claimed kiddo bath and bedtime routines as his own. He often takes the kids to run errands and I pretend not to know about the secret car snacks they get.
He invented ‘Mommy Vacations’ where he sends me to a hotel for a weekend. He says it’s so he and the kids can party, but I always come home to a clean house and laundry. As the parent who is always there, it’s so novel and meaningful for me to get to come home to kids who have missed me and rush to the door to greet me!
Our household doesn’t have a default parent, even though I am home with the kids all day. If they have a bad dream, a boo-boo (especially splinters), or just need a snack, they are just as likely to reach out to Eddie. If a kid gets sick in the night, the conversation isn’t ‘who will get up?’ it’s ‘who cleans the kid and who cleans the room/bed?’
He happily takes his turns to clean, cook, do laundry, and run errands. He loves gaming and roughhousing with the kids, but also paints nails and creates silly hairstyles. The only thing Eddie flat out refuses to do is cut the kids nails, but only because he’s terrified of hurting his babies.
During this pandemic, my job has expanded to include things like managing distance learning and cutting everybody’s hair. Eddie stepped up his effort, too. In the early days, I became overwhelmed and he insisted on running a school day. He wanted to give me a break and remind me that we are a team in all things.
He was exhausted and frustrated, but he then insisted on making dinner because he was ‘in awe’ of how difficult my job was, and how proud of me he was for meeting these new challenges. His love and praise keep me going and make me want to be the best version of myself.
I couldn’t ask for a more dedicated, loving and supportive husband and father. He is the most amazing human being I’ve ever met and I’ve loved him since middle school, but that’s a whole different story.”
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