Father Figures: Special Bond

“At age 29, after six years together, my wife and I decided that weâd spent enough selfish time together and try for a child.
When asked if I was ready, I frankly told her that Iâd never be ready as I donât know what to expect at all, so itâll be learning and instinct. Our first son Antoine came into the world and it changed our life forever, like all parents, I suppose.
After 3 years, we decided it was time or never for another one. Justin showed up prematurely at 34 weeks; a healthy baby.
Six months later, we declare our family of four is enough, so letâs go get a vasectomy. We are waiting for my turn on the table when I declare that itâs strange to know that from today on weâll really never have another child… ignorant that my wife was two weeks into her third pregnancy…
Two weeks later, the last Friday before Christmas vacation, I get a call from my wife asking me to stop at the pharmacy and get a pregnancy test. I think sheâs joking but says no; she vomited this morning and mommy instinct says itâs pregnancy nausea. The test turns positive.
We think about when it happened and come with a night exactly a month previous when we went out to a show, a rare night out, and had sex back home. We remember doing it without a condom because she was in her safe period. We decided on the spot without hesitation to keep it. Nine months later FĂŠlix was born.
Now no parent of multiple kids will admit it, but we all have one of them with whom thereâs a special, unexplainable bond that forms, not to say this child is your favorite, but there is a feeling with this one you donât get from the others.
We tend to think that, contrarily to our previous sons, FĂŠlix chose us. Twelve years later I still think it is so.”
– Dany Morissette
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