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Mike Julianelle

Mike lives in Brooklyn with his wife, two children, and increasing dependence on alcohol. Find him on dadandburied.com and its associated social channels (FB, IG, Twitter) and be ready for him to mock his kids, himself, and maybe even you.

Dad and Kids Scrap Photo Session to Clean Beach

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A father’s plans for a scenic photo shoot with his sons was derailed by a beach littered with trash. So the trio performed a good deed and definitely didn’t let their time together go to waste.

John Horton and his sons, Jaime, 13, and Lewis, 9, headed to the beach to take a few photos by the ocean. Upon arrival they noticed their usual lovely seaside view was marred by garbage. Incensed and eager to restore the beach, they decided to scrap the photos and instead focus on cleaning up the beach.

Highschooler Jaime Horton told Isle of Thanet News, “It’s our home and we don’t want to see it in such a state.”

The list of items the family cleared was endless and unpleasant: glass bottles, silverware, broken pieces of plastic, plastic wrap, beach balls, soccer balls, plastic buckets, and used baby wipes.

“We just cleared the big bits and dangerous stuff, we couldn’t do anymore as we had all our camera equipment and only intended to take photos around the coast, but when we saw the beach that plan was instantly scrapped! If we had planned to do a beach clear up we would’ve taken the right stuff with us but as we didn’t we were limited,” said the elder Horton.

He speculated that it had been left behind by daytrippers who’d visited the beach on holiday and had little regard for the state they left it in. He thought their hometown should be charged for the mess they made.

“I think TDC should find out where they were from and charge their authority for the clean up.”

The town of Thanet was grateful for the family’s efforts. Councillor Jason Savage said: “Firstly our thanks must go to the young people for their time and effort in clearing the litter left on the beach. They are a credit to themselves and I will be contacting them to offer an opportunity to meet to extend my thanks in person.”

Dad Installs Defibrillator at School, Saves Son’s Life With It

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Most teens would be embarrassed if their dad worked at their school. But one teenager is incredibly lucky that his does.

Stuart Askew works as the premises manager at Steiner Academy in England where his 15-year-old son Ethan is a student. When Ethan suddenly collapsed into a former student’s arms during phys ed, his dad was on the scene to help. And thankfully so was a defibrillator

As luck would have it – the defibrillator had only recently arrived at the school after the British Heart Foundation approved their application for one

And It get’s even more astounding: Ethan’s dad installed it. 

“Literally two days before, I was sitting in the middle of the staff room putting the battery in it – and then the idea that the first person that it gets used on is actually my son… It’s staggering,” Stuart told BBC News.

Stuart was informed of his son’s collapse by a few classmates, and when he saw someone performing chest compressions on his son, he knew it was no run-of-the-mill sports injury.

“I’m a first-aider at school, and with the number of stubbed toes and things like that you get on a daily basis you don’t really worry when somebody says something like that – but I ran down to the field…As I was sprinting across, I realised somebody was doing chest compressions on him and it kind of takes a couple of seconds to realise what that truly means.”

He used the defibrillator on his own son, and saved his life.

“It was very scary, but as soon as I remembered we had a defibrillator I kind of didn’t doubt it would have an OK ending. It was a terrible and frightening experience but I never really had any doubt that that was it.”

Ethan was taken away in an ambulance and put into an induced coma so that doctors could perform surgery. Turns out he had a narrow artery that was having trouble delivering oxygen during exercise.

I don’t think Ethan has any issues with his dad working at his school anymore.

Father Figures: Make It Happen

“I was so beat down at my job that I was constantly thinking ‘What the hell’s wrong with me?’ and ‘Why do I feel like I’m failing?’ and ‘Why can’t I do this?’ And realizing that I was thinking like that hurt even worse because we just had our first child and I should have had ALL the awesome feels in the world.

I’d go into work every day at 6:30am and come home around 6:30pm, including weekends. And even when I came home, I was never really home. In my mind, I was still at work worrying about things I didn’t get done and constantly responding to work emails and text messages, all while thinking the negative thoughts I mentioned above.

This state of mind wasn’t just hurting me; my wife and child suffered. My wife because I’d barely talk to her as I sat on the sofa lost in my thoughts. My baby girl because I’d never have any energy left for her when I got home. I’d hold her, but mentally I just wasn’t there, all while she was beginning to develop a little personality and relationship with her dad. And I was missing it.

I was so conflicted because I really wanted to leave my job in order to be there for my family, financially, mentally and physically, but I needed the job to support my family. I couldn’t have one without the other, but I couldn’t suffer through one more day at work. Something had to give.

It sure as hell was NOT going to be my family. The family that my wife and I worked so hard to build was NOT going to be an afterthought. The job wasn’t worth losing them. I’d rather be living in a box on the street with a happy family than have money and feel terrible.

After an incident at work that finally broke this camel’s back, a three-minute phone call changed my life. I called my wife, wracked with fear and guilt, finally admitting (about my job), “This is it. I’m done. I’m so sorry for this, but I can’t do it anymore.” And the next words I heard from my wife changed me forever: “Don’t be sorry. I see what this job is doing to you every day, and your daughter can sense it, too. This isn’t worth what it’s doing to you. We’ll be okay. We’ll figure this out.”

So with the support of my wife, and knowing that I could start fresh with my daughter, I went straight to HR and asked to file for my own termination, effective immediately.

As I said my goodbyes to the coworkers I was going to miss, I walked out of the building flushed with adrenaline, feeling immediate panic and regret about what I had just done. I got into my truck to drive home and instantly started dry heaving from the stressful thoughts of what’s to come. I called my wife back, asking her a million times if I’d done the right thing, if I’d made a mistake. No matter how many times I’d ask, she’d always patiently say “You did the right thing.”

But I still wasn’t convinced… until my daughter came home from the sitter.

One look into her eyes with my new found sense of freedom and I knew everything was going to be alright, because we were together. I’d do anything for this little girl, but it had to start by being there for her. And I’ve never stopped since that moment.

After a small amount of time and personal reflection, I’ve moved on to an amazing job with an incredible company, and now I’m really happy. At work AND at home.

For those who are reading this and are feeling (in any way) like how I described above, this is what I have to say to you:

That was the single hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. To walk away from something I needed and into an uncertain future was terrifying! But I had the support of my wife and child to assure me that when there’s a will for a better ‘you,’ there’s a way to make it happen.

This concept doesn’t have to apply to a work scenario. If there is something about yourself that you want to change so bad, but can’t find the courage to do, look DEEP inside you to find that one reason, no matter how small of a reason it may seem, and FIGHT like hell to bring it to the surface. If you don’t have the strength by yourself to fight for it, lean on someone close to you and have them help you. If you feel like you’re fighting alone, read this post again from the beginning and realize that you are NOT alone.

Just. Fight. Like. Hell. But fight for a reason you believe in.

– Robert “Tony” Miller

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Single Dad Dresses as Spider-Man to Calm Autistic Son

Some dads will do anything to help their kids, especially if their kid has special needs. And sometimes connecting with or calming that child requires donning an elaborate costume.

Enter Dale Grounds, a single dad from Nottingham, England who is raising his autistic son all by himself. Reece was diagnosed with autism in 2015, and Dale found himself struggling to help his son through his outbursts and stormy moods.

“There was a time when Reece came home from school and was really upset, he was crying a lot and took himself upstairs to bed and wouldn’t let me talk to him. When he’s in meltdown mode it can be really hard to get through to him; he enters his own world and you have to say and do all the right things to help or it just gets worse,” Dale told Metro UK

And then he thought of something.

“He would have really bad meltdowns which resulted in non-stop crying. I’d tried everything to help him but nothing seemed to work. Then one day I walked into the living room and he was watching Spiderman and he was so engrossed.”

He decided to dress up as Spider-Man to try and calm his son down and prevent or cut short any meltdowns. Now, when Reece needs a hand with homework, or just needs to let off some steam with a soccer ball in the backyard, Dale gets into his Spidey get up and saves the day.

“For a while he didn’t really grasp the fact that I was his dad and Spiderman as well, but now he does and he thinks what I do is amazing. It’s really helped with his moods too, so it’s great that I’ve been able to help him in this way.”

Needless to say Reece’s favorite superhero is Spider-Man. But his father was already his biggest hero. Dale had Reece when he was just 19-years old and has been raising him on his own since Reece was an infant. But now he’s a hero to countless other kids as well.

After seeing the positive reaction he got when he wore the suit to pick Reece up from school, Dale’s spider senses starting tingling. So he began visiting a local hospital dressed as Spidey.

“Some weeks I’m on the cancer ward, other times I’m visiting children in the burns unit; it varies all the time.”

Who needs real superheroes when there are dads like Dale around?

Ingenuity and Love Allows Dad to Breastfeed His Baby

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Parenting is all about stepping up. Kudos moms, we know you have the bulk of the work at first.  But once the baby arrives, it’s all hands on deck! (And it pretty much stays that way for the rest of your lives…) For most new dads, the moment they hold their child – they’re ready to rise to any occasion.

Case in point: Maxamillian Neubauer. He was so ready that he even took on breastfeeding duties.

You heard me.

During labor, Max’s wife April was forced to undergo an emergency c-section. Due to some complications she was initially unable to breastfeed the baby. Max was willing, but a quick thinking nurse named Cybil Martin-Dennehy made him able. She MacGyvered an ingenious device that Max christened the “moob.”

The “moob” consists of a syringe full of formula, a tube, and a nipple shield. This allowed the baby to feel like she was nursing from a breast. Cheers to Max for becoming the first man to “breastfeed” a baby. He made good on his wife’s birth plan which specified immediate skin-to-skin breastfeeding and he wanted to honor her wishes.

After sharing the story on social media, he and the nurse have garnered plenty of well deserved praise and over 45,000 Facebook shares!

Dad Saves Teen Driven to Suicide Over Fortnite Obsession

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If you have teenage kids, odds are you’ve heard of Fortnite. And chances are you got tired of hearing about it months ago. Parents often get fed up with their kids’ devotion to video games, but one family had more to worry about than most.

17-year-old Carl Thompson, who lives in the UK, was so involved in Fortnite that it had taken over his life to the point that full days spent playing the game resulted in massive debt and drug addiction.

“I was exhausted doing all-nighters, so my mates said I should try playing with amphetamines. I’ve always been anti-drugs, but all I wanted to do was play the game more, and this seemed the only way. was doing all-nighters three or four nights a week. When I hadn’t slept, I’d just take more speed and carry on. I was a complete state, miserable and unable to function… kept up by the speed and not eating.”

The game had so completely consumed his life, that he thought the only escape was suicide. Thankfully, his dad was there to stop him. Just in the nick of time.

Thompson’s father happened to see his preparing to jump out of his third-story bedroom window and pulled him to safety.

The teen is now getting treatment for his issues, and is speaking out against the game.

“Fortnite turned me into a suicidal, thieving, lying drug addict,” Thompon told the Mirror. “I want to warn kids or parents how the game sucks you in far, far worse than any 18-rated game I’ve played. The idea that young kids are playing this is terrifying.”

It only took a few months of playing before Carl’s life started to suffer, and now he and his family are hoping to prevent others from falling prey.

Carol Thompson, 38, told the Mirror that she’s “petrified how many kids will get addicted to this game this summer,” and she had a message for parents. “I urge every parent to keep their gaming console out of bounds at night and to spot the warning signs. It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor… this game sucks you in and ruins lives.”

Kids love screens, particularly ones that show video games. Maybe your kids played Minecraft, maybe you even grew up with Zelda or Pac-Man. At the risk of sounding cliche – today’s games are not like our games. If you find they’re becoming all consuming, be mindful. One family nearly paid the ultimate price for their son’s addiction to the game.

Father Figures: Natural Woman

“My dad was a jazz musician.

He wasn’t in my life much when I was little, but once my mom took me to the Portland Jazz Festival, and he just happened to be there performing. His band played ‘Natural Woman.’ I got to go backstage after the show and the woman who sang gave me a big hug, and my dad gave me the band’s cassette tape.

I was 6 and rewound that cassette to listen to ‘Natural Woman’ over and over, singing along. I’d imagine myself becoming a good enough singer to be able to sing with my dad’s band one day.

As I got older my dad got a little better at being around. Like many jazz enthusiasts, he was passionate about ‘real music,’ and very disparaging of the hip hop and pop music I loved. Aretha was the one artist we could always agree on. She was the Queen of Soul, but to me she was a link to my dad.

I’m a grown woman now and my dad passed away, but I still can’t hear Natural Woman without feeling, somewhat ironically, like the little girl longing for a way to get closer to her dad.”

– Morgan Music

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Baby Drake Gets Bottle Service From Dad

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Given the carefully crafted personas of modern celebrities – it’s easy to forget they were once tiny helpless human beings that pooped themselves.

Drake, aka @champagnepapi on Instagram, interrupted his regularly scheduled programming to pay homage to his dad. And now that we’re dads who shake our fists at modern music (many of us, anyway), this is a moment we can all finally relate to.

The first photo is an old school shot of Aubrey (Drake’s real name, use it to impress your kids) as an infant with his proud poppa providing bottle service. It’s captioned “Shelby Drive,” which, according to Hot New Hip Hop, is where Aubrey’s dad lived in Memphis, around 1986/87.

Shelby Drive.

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He followed it up with a current photo of his dad with that epic ‘stache still in check.

Streets really need that @therealdennisg album ASAP…

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Any guesses as to why he’s wearing a hat, scarf, long sleeve shirt and heavy jacket when he’s indoors?

Someone messed with his thermostat, of course.

Father Figures: Misunderstood PTSD

“Growing up, my dad wasn’t perfect. What dad is though, right? Whatever his issues were, we all knew that he loved us. There were some pretty intense days in our household. I wish that back then I knew what I know now. I would’ve understood my dad better.

My dad was born in the mid-40s on an island in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean known as São Miguel, Azores. At the age of 16, he was drafted into the army. At 21, he was deployed to Angola for the Angola War of Independence. Trained as a shooter, he took many lives. As time went by, he became numb to the world that surrounded him. The brutality and violence would be too much for anybody. In 1967, my father was discharged as he had put in his required time.

During my dad’s time in the army, he became pen pals with a woman who lived in a village not too far from where he grew up. They shared countless stories and love poems. My dad would tell her that he would marry her when he returned. He looked forward to receiving the her letters as it was the one thing that was normal in his life. When my dad returned to São Miguel, he married that pen pal. I know this pen pal as Mom.

All of my mom’s siblings moved to North America. Two of them moved to the States, and the other two moved to Canada. My mom was feeling quite lonely in the tiny village on this remote island in the middle of nowhere. My dad was moving around from village to village doing odd jobs to make money to support his growing family. My mom eventually had enough and persuaded my dad to move to Canada so she could be with family. My dad, while reluctant, moved to make my mom happy.

My mom, dad, sister, and two brothers landed in Canada with only $100. They had no house, no job, and couldn’t speak English. My aunt had my family live with her until they could get their own place. My aunt and uncle had eight kids and owned a three bedroom house, so things got really crowded.

My dad ended up getting a job in construction and my mom worked as a cleaner. They bought their first house, and I was born shortly after. Growing up, I remember having roosters, chickens, Cornish hens, rabbits, goats, and a massive garden in the backyard.

Once I started going to school and making friends, I would bring them over to my house to hang out. Every time I brought a friend over, they were shocked and would tell me repeatedly that a farm in your back yard in downtown Winnipeg was not normal or legal. I was confused as I thought everyone had a farm; it was normal to me! So, it’s quite obvious that my dad truly did not leave Portugal. He lived in Canada as he would’ve back in Portugal. He missed home and wanted to go back.

My dad suffered from alcoholism. I remember him drunk more than I remember him sober. I remember being angry with him and at one point disliking him. I would cringe when I heard the front door open and him stumbling in, because I knew a few seconds later my mom would start screaming at him. I know now why he was the way he was, but I didn’t get it at the time – no one did.

My dad had severe PTSD, which is why he drank. My mother, my siblings, and I had no idea. PTSD wasn’t understood at the time. We know a lot more about PTSD today than we did then. There would be nights where I would wake up to my dad’s screams. These night terrors didn’t stop until the day he died. I feel extremely guilty for writing my dad off as a drunk. If I’d known about PTSD then, I would’ve gone through the proper channels to get him help.

Today, I know that my dad wasn’t a ‘drunk,’ he was a man with a disease; a disease that prevented him from living his happiest life. I also know that he was a great dad. Any dad who would move his family with only $100 to a foreign country so that they could have a good life is a good dad.

He wanted the best life for his kids and wife, while putting his own happiness on hold.”

– Joe Faria

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Father Figures: Truck Return

“My Dad has worked hard his entire life, sometimes having two or three jobs, to provide for his family. He grew up in a large family, in a not so nice area of town, and without a lot of money. He began working with his dad as a young teenager.

He and my mom are high school sweethearts. They got married at the courthouse at 18 years old and immediately got pregnant with me. Then soon after, they had my sister.

I do not remember a time in my life where I didn’t have everything that I needed. And I never truly knew how much my parents struggled to keep it that way.

When I was in my early 20s, I was dating a guy that I had met through a friend. At first he seemed like a great guy, responsible and sweet. He moved in with a friend to be closer to me, and even bought a truck from my dad. My dad had set up a payment plan with him to help him out.

Soon after we had been dating though, he became verbally abusive and manipulating. When I finally got the guts to break up with him, he became very mean, and even taunted me, saying ‘Well, you will still see me every time I have to pay your Dad for the truck!’ The next day my Dad took it upon himself to drive his belongings back to him and literally GAVE him the truck!

As he drove away, he said “Now you have no reason to come see my daughter anymore!’

I love my dad so much, and I hope he knows how much he means to me! He is the best dad, and the greatest drandpa to my kids!”

– Lana Rauner

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Father Figures: Dance Recital

“Every dad hopes for a boy.

We want to pass our knowledge of ‘male skills’ down to them. Teach them to work on cars, show them how to throw a football, all the things our dads taught us.

When we are told we are having a girl, all those thoughts go away. For me I wondered, ‘what will I do with her?’

I’ve never played with Barbies, I’ve never had a tea party. I had no idea how I was going to bond with this little girl or what memories we were going to create. I was both scared and excited for the unknown challenges.

When my daughter started at her dance school, they had a dance every recital that was the father/daughter dance. My daughter immediately signed me up, without my consent or knowledge. I got a phone call from her mom that night telling me that I was going to be in a recital and that I would have to take my own dance class with her.

Now this is the third year we have been doing it and we both love it. Her face lights up every time we get on the stage. We spend the four months rehearsing and laughing and the four minutes on stage smiling at each other.

I don’t know how many good memories she will hold on to after I’m gone, and I don’t know how many of the bad times she will remember either, but I’m almost positive she will forever remember the four minutes per year that we stare into each other’s eyes and feel the amount of love we have for each other.

I hope she remembers that even though I can’t dance, I stepped on that stage yearly to make her smile, and how much I love that she signs me up year after year, still without my consent.”

– Seth Bettencourt

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Phil Mickelson Shows Off His Killer Dad Dance Moves, Unfortunately

When it comes to watching someone bust a move, odds are a white, middle-aged dad would be pretty low on your wishlist. Add “professional golfer” to that description, and most of us have probably walked away before the show begins.

But we’d have missed out on some funny stuff, as evidenced by golfer Phil Mickelson’s new ad for the Mizzen + Main dress shirt line he blah blah blahs. Let’s just get to the white dude in dad jeans making a fool of himself. Hey, at least he’s in on the joke!

Comedian Describes Every Parent’s Disney Visit

You don’t have to be a comedian to find the humor in a family vacation, but it probably doesn’t hurt, especially when that vacation is to the Happiest Place on Earth. Because any parent who’s shelled our the dough for a trip to Disney knows “happy” isn’t always the prevailing emotion,

Just ask comedian John Crist, whose video describing the experience has gone viral.