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Mike Julianelle

Mike lives in Brooklyn with his wife, two children, and increasing dependence on alcohol. Find him on dadandburied.com and its associated social channels (FB, IG, Twitter) and be ready for him to mock his kids, himself, and maybe even you.

Son Surprises Ailing Dad With Tickets To College World Series

Father’s Day is a special time to celebrate your old man, and show him how much you appreciate the role he’s played in your life all these years. Especially since, as we get older, our dads do too, and they may not have many Father’s Days left.

Matt Lea recognized that this Father’s Day, and so went out of his way to make it a memorable one, for both him and his father, both former college baseball players who bonded over the game as Matt was growing up.

Matt’s father Billy suffers from Alzheimer’s Disease, and the symptoms have been accruing rapidly. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t time for more memories, and Matt used the latest Father’s Day as an opportunity to do just that. The 36-year-old drove 12 hours, from Florida to Mississippi, and surprised his parents at their doorstep on Sunday.

He was bearing gifts as well, bringing his dad the jersey of his favorite baseball team, Mississippi State. But that wasn’t all. Matt brought tickets too, to see the College World Series in Omaha in person.

In video of the exchange that Matt posted on Twitter, his dad was clearly taken by surprise.

“I figured it’s probably not good enough just for us to watch the game here,” Matt says in the video as he produces the tickets. “How about we go to Omaha? Do you want to go up to Omaha and watch the College World Series together?”

“Golly,” an emotional Billy responds. “You’re gonna break my heart, here.”

Matt’s gift for his dad received a rapturous response from Twitter, where it’s been liked 46,000 times and retweeted 11,000 times.

Matt seemed as surprised by the response as his dad was by the gift, as everyone who celebrated Father’s Day yesterday knows, there’s nothing better than sharing meaningful memories with your dad, which is exactly what Matt did. An article on Omaha.com details Billy’s baseball past, the initial diagnosis of his Alzheimer’s, the VIP experience Matt treated him too over the weekend.

Matt’s Twitter account showcased the rest.

Happy Father’s Day!

Father Figures: Heroes

“On February 2, 2011, my daughter was born. The whole thing started pretty normally about 2:30 am or so, my wife woke me up and said, ‘Honey, it is time to go,’ so we went to the hospital in a snowstorm.

That was the easy part.

When they put the belly monitor on her they noticed that the babies heart rate would drop to low whenever my wife would have a contraction. She needed emergency C-section, but the doctor could not make it due to the storm, and when he finally arrived it was rush rush rush!
Well when my daughter Emily did arrive, she had internal bleeding throughout her body, which included two grade 4 brain bleeds. We could not touch her because she would bruise and start bleeding.
They had to life-flight her to the university, where she spent 5 1/2 weeks in the NICU, which left her (you may want to sit down) deaf/blind, with hydrocephalus, a shunt, cerebral palsy, and seizures (at age 6, she needed a baclofen pump because her CP got too bad to handle without it). She is doing great today. She is happy, loves life, and everyone who meets her says that she makes their day and she is beautiful.
To pay back our little community, I became a first responder, mostly a firefighter, but I did help with EMS. Never got my certification, but that is where I found out that in the U.S. we do not have any training for first responders to deal with children with special needs.
I have made it my personal mission to teach first responders about kids with special needs.
I have taken to Emily to every EMS/Fire station in the five counties around me. I have taken her to the police and sheriff’s departments to train them, and now I have a waiting list to get trained.
I don’t know if I am the hero here, but I needed to tell the story.”

– Mike Kuyper

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Disabled Dad’s Touching Gift To Daughter Goes Viral

Parents will do anything for their kids, it’s what unconditional love is all about. When you have children, what’s yours is theirs, and whether you’re rich or poor, you’ll give the skin off your back if your kids need it.

One father is a perfect example of most parents’ willingness to help their children in any way they can, and his touching gesture struck a chord with the internet and went viral as a result.

Jim Potterfield was badly injured by a drunk driver in 1981. The accident required nine surgeries and left Jim in a coma for 9 months, and when he awoke, it was with mental and physical disabilities. Doctors questioned whether he would ever walk again.

Against all odds, Jim went on to father four children, including daughter Morgan, providing for them with an office job at an oil and gas company that he held for more than 30 years. Last year he was laid off. His mental and physical issues have prevented him from finding a new job, and his medical bills are staggering.

Nevertheless, in the midst of all this, Dad has only been thinking about helping Morgan, and when she got home from work the other day, she saw a gift he had left her.

Her dad had been secretly saving his spare change for weeks to gather some coffee money for his daughter. The note with the gift reads: “$11.19 – 6/1/18 coffee money Love, Dad.”

When Morgan shared the image online, it immediately took off, with over 230,000 likes and 40,000 retweets on Twitter, and 38,000 upvotes on Reddit (the post was titled “Awesome Dad.”)

The disability income he Jim receives hardly makes a dent in his medical bills, and it renders him ineligible for Medicaid until 2020. So his kids started a GoFundMe to help their dad, and thanks to the recent attention he’s received, the results have been fast, surpassing the goal in just one day, and still going!

People recognize an awesome dad when they see one.

Father Figures: Magic Cape

“My 4-year-old daughter changes clothes at least five times a day, depending on her imagination.
After 19 years as an E7, I have met many soldiers of diverse backgrounds and different experiences in uniform, but the one thing we have in common is that our greatest job is being a parent.
One day, I came home from work and my daughter came out of the house in a cape. She can go anywhere in the world with this magic cape, any moment in history even, just by doing a few twirls and saying the name of the country, city, or continent. I asked her where she wanted to go and she said, “Wherever you are going, Dadda.”
I said, “To get the mail.”
So she said the magic words, twirled, grabbed my hand, and said “Follow me, you will be safe.”
My wife snapped this picture out of the kitchen door. I will always treasure this.”
 – Brian Cessna
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Father Figures: Wish Granted

“I’ve known I wanted to be a father since I was in 8th grade. Growing up with a younger sister, stepping into the protective and educational role was seamless to me, and I was always good with children.
My wish was granted far younger than I imagined, at the age of 18, but I was ecstatic nevertheless. Fast-forward nearly 7 years later and nothing has changed. I still enjoy being a father with every passing day, yearning for more time with him as I watch him grow.
The thing about being a dad is that the process teaches you and molds you just as much as it does the child, if not more. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for my son, as he is the driving force for being successful so that I could provide him with thrice of what was given to me.
My son is my friend, my mentee, my protege, and my idol. I write a blog to him every month and I can’t wait until he turns 18 so I can show it to him.”

– Jonathan Chavarria

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Father Figures: Stepping Up

“I never had any daddy issues, my parents were always together when I was a kid, mostly happy, and still are. And my dad was my best bud, still is.

So I always told myself I’d be a good father, and I wanted that great family life that I grew up with. So when I was 21 and I found out my recent ex was pregnant – it was either mine or the guy she was currently seeing at the time’s baby – I felt like my life’s plans were going the tube.

Regardless, I knew the right thing was to support her no matter what. We didn’t get back together right then, because we didn’t want it to feel like it was just because she was pregnant, and maybe not even mine. Even though I was there for her every day, going for walks, talking to her belly, getting her the popsicles she craved and everything in between, we were still just good friends planning to be co-parents. She even told me often that if the test came back negative, I could be a role model, but she wasn’t about to let me just step up just because the other guy dropped off the face of the earth.

When she went into labour, she called me right away, and I went to the hospital. I spent 25 hours there with her, until Eden was born at 7:25 the next day. I’m so grateful I got to be there, when other dads in my position might’ve been told to stay away until a DNA test was done.

When I held my daughter for the first time I had this feeling of unconditional love that’s hard to describe to anyone not in my shoes… I knew she might not be, but my gut just said “This is my baby girl.” I knew then that I didn’t need a piece of paper to tell me so.

We got the test results back about 2-3 weeks later, after we had already begun co-parenting, and I had assured my ex that I was too emotionally attached already to just run. Well, when the test came back negative, I found out none of my promises had prepared me for the life decision I had to make.

I knew half the men out there would’ve hated their ex and moved on with their life. But something about this wonderful little person struck me in a way I still can’t put into words. From the moment she saw me for the first time, she grabbed my soul and hasn’t never let go.

I faced a lot of judgement for my decision to be her dad, even had family alienate and ostracize me for it, when in fact it wasn’t their decision, or their life. I ignored it and just told myself sometimes the best things in life are unplanned. Her mom and I got back together for a year but in the end admitted we were just different people. At that point she never questioned if I’d “stick around,” because I was simply Eden’s dad.

We never saw a courtroom, I just got a place with a room for her and started taking her 50/50, half of every week. And I’ve been blessed to watch her grow into a daddy’s girl who tells me she loves me 50 times a day. Now, three years later, she just turned four, and we had one party with parts of each family, my wonderful girlfriend, Eden’s soon to be stepdad, all of us came together to celebrate her life, and I couldn’t have been happier with how life has turned out. And I probably don’t thank her mom enough for letting me be the best dad I could be.

I only hope that some folks read this and know that there are good dads out there, blood or not.”

– Jordan Forget

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Father Figures: I’ll Carry You

“July 11th, 2017 was the worst day of my entire life.

My oldest daughter was on her way to work when she was involved in a near-fatal car accident. Broken leg in 3 places including femur, head injury, facial lacerations, cuts and scrapes everywhere.

No matter how much you love someone, until you are blind-sided by something like this you do not truly appreciate just how much.

I worked 15 minutes from the hospital they brought her to and it felt like it took years to get to her. We spent the next 22 days in the hospital. I spent almost every night with her, sitting beside her, feeding her, helping her heal, and praying over her.

Kaitlyn was finishing up her degree to be a teacher and had to put her student teaching on hold until we could see if she would be okay. She was engaged to be married in the fall and she needed to keep working until then as much as possible. Things seemed bleak for the near future.

As a dad you are ready and willing to lay down you life for your kids. You will do without so your kids can have what they want/need, you will protect them from harm,  you will stand in the breach between them and the world. At some point, none of that matters. What truly matters is what you have filled your kids heart soul and mind with before that moment.

I raised both of my daughters to be Warrior Princesses. I never let them lean on “i’m just a girl.” Instead I taught them that they are complete. They do not need anything more than themselves to succeed. I taught them to fight for what they want and never give up. Quitting isn’t an option.

Watching Kaitlyn heal and fight to get better made me prouder each day. From her first step in physical therapy to walking her down the isle on her wedding day to watching her receive her diploma on her graduation day to her first day of teaching, my pride and admiration for her grew exponentially.

During her ceremony, the pastor was talking about the struggles that my family and soon to be son-in-law had gone through. He brought up a moment I had not thought about. He said that when he had came to visit Kaitlyn in the hospital she said she was still planning on walking down the aisle if she could, and I said, ‘I’ll carry you if I have to.’

That is what being a dad is all about:

‘I’ll carry you if I have to.'”

  • Wes Nugent

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Father Figures: Worth It

“I never thought I would be a dad, because I was mostly ‘careful’ and I wasn’t married by 35. My dad wasn’t around much growing up, and felt I had no one to look up to or talk to, and I told myself that if it happened, I would always be there for my kids. No matter what.

Then, at 35, I found out I was going to be a dad with a woman I had known for less than a month. I was told when I was almost 1000 miles away from her, neck deep in… ‘activities.’
The night before, I’d found myself in a situation where I could have gone ‘missing’ – where no one would ever find me. When I got out of that scenario, shaking, I prayed to God to make a way back to Him and that if I made it through I would make good on my promise to straighten out. I made it through, and the very night I got back I got the call I was going to be a father. I knew it was the sign I was looking for. I told the boss to keep the money for the job and I left.
The mother alienated me during the pregnancy and told me to forget about her and the baby. This was my worst fear. I slept in my car at the hospital because she wouldn’t let me stay. After he was born, she wouldn’t let me see him for four weeks. As he grew, she taught my son to call another man papa.
But when he was a year and a half old, after all of that and so much much more, I got 50% custody. Now I see my son almost every day.
As I type, with proud tears, this boy, my son is enjoying his nap, with chicken nuggets on a plate, dinosaurs in the closet and a smile on his face. When he wakes up he will say ‘I love you, daddy’ and I will say ‘I love you too, son.’
It is always worth it.”

– Anonymous

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Father Figures: Arm Wrestle

“My dad is the strongest, most courageous, kind man that I know.

I grew up in the shadow of an Army Attack Helicopter pilot. As I grew older, I too joined the Army. We don’t get to see each other very often, but when we do, we always arm wrestle.

I have NEVER been able to beat my dad.

This past Memorial Day weekend, I took my family to visit my parents. As always, we had our traditional arm wrestle. This time, I could tell I could beat my dad. Finally, after all of this time I could win!

But I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

My dad will always be undefeated in my eyes. He will always be my hero.”

– Ryan Zimmerman

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Mick Jagger’s Comments On Son’s Instagram Prove Rock Stars Are Dorky Dads Too

Just because you’re the frontman for one of the biggest bands in rock n’roll history doesn’t mean you can’t be a dad too. We all contain multitudes, and that includes Mick Jagger.

The Rolling Stones lead singer took a break from his band’s endless touring to leave some quintessentially “dad” comments on his son’s Instagram pics.

He may not fade away, but he’s definitely dadding away.

Father Figures: Stress and Relief

“Back around 1976, my Dad drove a kick ass Dodge van. He named it ‘Bubba Buggy.’ Custom lettering, shag carpet. One cold New England night 41 years ago in that bitchin’ roomy ride became the catalyst for my parents engagement, and 8 months later, 4 lbs and 9 ounces of ‘game-changing’ me.

Until reaching adulthood – and certainly now fatherhood – I couldn’t really understand how wonderfully and overwhelmingly different that new game must have been for him.

Now 62, my Dad loves that he and I no longer look like mere father and son, but instead just a couple of old guys. With age, imperfections become clearer, in me and in the man who decades ago seemed invincible. But even as waistlines grow, appreciation grows as well. 

I spent last night in a hospital waiting room while my Dad had a triple bypass.

Nothing reminds you of how important getting to the gym and eating sensible salads are when your not that much older dad has major surgery. Life as a dad is full of ER visits… stitches, fevers, broken bones, births and deaths. Usually as the driver or visitor… but eventually as the patient.

There is stress and there is relief in fatherhood. You feel the weight of responsibility that comes with being ‘the Man’ and the lightness of being the coolest, most fun person your kids have ever known (outside of Mom).

My dad did great in surgery. I got a text at 4am telling me “they forgot to take it out!” I’m glad he was attuned to his body enough not to tough it out but to go to the hospital. Too many dads avoid the warning signs and don’t make it.

I’m looking forward to more dad jokes, and more times when I appreciate and also hand down his well-honed love and silliness. I hope we both get really old together and maybe track down a sweet-looking shag carpeted van where we can crank up the tunes and cruise.”

– Brian Harrison

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Father Figures: Number One

“My father was an NFL athlete, fireman, and owner of a battery business. The quintessential quiet, humble, strong type that you don’t see much of anymore. I grew up assuming all dads had calloused hands and played catch after work.

His sense of humor was dry and subtle, much of which I surely wouldn’t understand until I got older, and subsequently employed myself.

When he spoke, it was with purpose and consideration. When he spoke, you listened. He also did plenty of listening himself. His love and care was deep beyond measure that I witnessed elsewhere.

One day, when I was 11, is ingrained into my memory. He arrived home to my mother crying. I’d argued beyond reason with her about attending a field trip after missing a week of school while sick.

He calmly sat me down and, with purpose, quite sternly explained that this would be the last time I made her cry.

“I want to make one thing clear. This is the last time you will make your mother cry. Remember, I chose her, I did not choose you. She is number one.”

Knowing his unflinching dedication and commitment as a father, this sentence was my first awakening into what love was, and an early glimpse at healthy priorities. He may not remember, but it stayed with me, and drives who I strive to be as a husband today, and a father one day. ”

– Matt Whittington

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Subway Stranger Helps Dedicated Dad With Common Core

Helping your kids with their homework is no parent’s idea of a good time, and that was before common core entered the picture and changed the rules on us.

Truth be told, I don’t remember any math after sixth grade, and now that kids are using tens and being forced to solve formerly simple arithmetic by drawing boxes, I’m completely useless. Sometimes it feels like you need to go back to school just to be able to help your kids get through it!

One dad is doing the next best thing, boning up on the principles of mathematics that his young son is struggling with just so he can help the youngster with his homework. That’s some A+ dadding!

Corey Simmons just wants to help his kid get the hang of fractions, and in order to give him the support he needs, Corey went back to re-learn math he probably hasn’t looked at in twenty years. They say YouTube is a handy resource when it comes to this kind of stuff, but sometimes the wifi isn’t working. Like when you’re commuting on the subway.

That’s where Corey was one afternoon when he found himself frustrated by those fractions. He didn’t have the internet to help, but he did have the kindness of strangers. One stranger in particular – a former math teacher who happened to be sharing the subway with Corey that day and noticed the dedicated dad’s confusion.

Denise Wilson witnessed the exchange and shared the story on Facebook:

“So today omw from work the guy in the red sat down opend up his folder and started reading a few stops later the guy next to him sat down and asked him what he’s studying you look a little confused maybe i can help he says his son failed a math test they’re learning fractions so im just teaching myself this over again so i can help him im 42 & dont know any of this so im re teaching myself the guy in the black informed him he use to be a math teacher so he asked the guy to quiz him and everything he got wrong or was confused about he broke it down and corrected him by the end of my train ride the guy in the red had a better understanding he can bring home a new method and teach his child i really love seeing shit like this especially in New York because we really just dont give a fuck about what the person next to us is going thru ❤”

Wilson recounted the scene for CBS News and admitted the whole thing got to her emotionally. “I started tearing up,” Wilson told CBS. “It was just one person helping another, and I thought that was beautiful.”

The post has been shared over 40,000 times since April.