Single Gay Dad Wins Hearts on Social Media for His Wholesomeness and Strength

Single gay dad wins hearts on social media
(Instagram/nycgaydad)

Dads come in many forms. Biological dads, adoptive dads, straight dads, gay dads, dads who pour their hearts into raising kids that aren’t biologically theirs, and every dad in between. All of these dads deserve to be both celebrated and represented, a job José Rolón aka “nycgaydad” was more than happy to jump into head-first. Rolón has shared his struggles and successes on social media, quickly going viral for all the right reasons.

 

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Rolón has always wanted to be a dad, but as a member of the LGBTQ community, he didn’t always believe his dream of one day having a big, loving family was possible. In part, Rolón began sharing his journey as a gay dad on social media eight years ago to let others know that the limitations they believed they had didn’t actually exist.

“The feedback and testimonials have been beautiful, but my favorite have been from mothers of LGBTQ youth and young adults who share our family has shown them what is possible for their child,” Rolón told The Dad.

Anyone who watches Rolón’s videos or reads his posts on social media can see that he lives and breathes being a dad to his three kids, Avery, Lilah, and London. Rolón’s kids are full of laughter and hilarious comments, painting Rolón’s family as a happy one. But even though Rolón shares plenty of uplifting and entertaining content (and he thoroughly enjoys poking fun at gay stereotypes), he doesn’t shy away from the struggles of fatherhood.

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In 2013, Rolón’s family was hit with an unthinkable tragedy. When his son Avery was an infant and the couple’s surrogate was pregnant with twins Lilah and London, Rolón’s husband Tim Merrell died suddenly and tragically in his sleep. During his first few months of fatherhood, Rolón had to adjust not only to raising a baby but now to being a single father. A single father, who was about to have three kids under the age of two.

 

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Even after losing his husband, Rolón’s determination to be an amazing dad to his growing family wasn’t shaken. While giving a eulogy for his husband, Rolón informed the packed church of their surrogate’s pregnancy. The grieving father was met with an enormous amount of love and support, something he believes is essential to raising kids.

“Don’t be shy about getting help wherever you can get it,” Rolón stresses. “Don’t turn people down and when people say they’re there for you, hold them accountable.”

Rolón continues to demonstrate what’s possible for the LGBTQ community, but also for single parents who never anticipated becoming single parents.

“They say it takes a village for a reason, you don’t have to be alone.”

Daughter Shares Dad’s Perfect Reaction To Her Coming Out, Sparks Wholesome Thread

Daughter shares dad's wholesome response to her coming out
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For the LGBTQ+ community, the thought of coming out to your parents is often anxiety-inducing. Whether we admit it or not, we have a deeply-rooted fear of disappointing our parents, even as adults. There is still so much stigma attached to being an LGBTQ+ person that the fear of judgment or rejection is very real – fortunately, the world is filled with parents ready and waiting for an opportunity to support their kids for exactly who they are.

In a post that quickly went viral, one Twitter user named Charlotte shared her recent “coming out” story. With no time to prepare, her legend of a dad had the absolutely perfect response.

Charlotte’s post read, “came out to my parents (!) and my dad was like, oh that’s nice! i thought you were going to ask for money!”

On the surface, this response may feel somewhat dismissive. But in reality, Charlotte’s dad said everything a person needs to hear after sharing something this life-changing and proceeded to sprinkle in some dad flair for good measure.

After a significant amount of time building up the coming-out process and imagining all of the potential responses (even the absurd ones, as we all do when we’re catastrophizing), Charlotte was met with complete and total acceptance. Her dad essentially said, “oh, thank goodness you’re just coming out, I thought you were about to do something I don’t approve of, like ask for money.”

Charlotte’s dad’s response was so wholesome, the tweet accumulated nearly a million likes in less than a week. Upon finding out about his Twitter fame (and his daughter’s even more public coming out), once again, this dad was back with the perfect response.

The heartwarming post prompted others to share their own stories, adding to the wholesome as heck celebration of supportive parents (and the hilarious inner workings of the Dad Mind).

This dad has his priorities straight

Solid advice

We need a whole book of stories like this

Incredible

Heartwarming Doritos Ad From Mexico Features Son Coming Out To Father

Doritos Mexico's heartwarming ad
(YouTube/Doritos)

Name one TV commercial you remember, and I’ll bet you had an emotional reaction the first time you viewed it — whether it made you laugh, smile, cry, or all three.

It’s no secret that some of the most memorable advertising somehow pulls at your heartstrings. Case in point: the Budweiser Clydesdales, the Apple iPad widower, or the Mac Daddy of them all, the Sarah McLachlan SPCA ads (you’re welcome for that earworm btw).

However, there’s a new player on the list of corporate emotional manipulators, and it’s one you may not expect: Doritos.

Over the holidays, Doritos Mexico launched a commercial that’s since made waves for all the right reasons, especially in the LGBTQ+ community.

It features a divorced father with a college-age son who brought a friend home for the holidays. However, he soon suspects his son and the male companion “are a couple and they do not dare tell me,” so he goes to Reddit for advice on how to break the news gently that he knows… and, more importantly, that his love is unconditional.

The ad — which is based on a true story — ends with a simple, subtly sweet exchange between father & son… followed by the viewer’s own visceral ugly-crying (or maybe that’s just me?).

With everything going on in the world today, it’s the virtual, inclusive embrace we all need right now, albeit from an unexpected source. (Then again, as the saying goes, “If you can’t get a warm, bosomy grandma hug, fill the spiritual abyss with a chips commercial!”)

Here’s hoping it makes its way to U.S. airwaves soon.

Watch the full Doritos Mexico ad (in Spanish with English subtitles) below.

Boy’s Letter to Santa Goes Viral Because the Only Thing He Asks for Is Love

LGBTQ Santa Letter
(USPS)

Writing letters to Santa is one of the fun holiday traditions to do with your kids when they’re young. The letters can be fun time capsules for when they’re older, and it’s part of the magic of the season when they’re younger. They can be a great window into a child’s brain because kids DO NOT HOLD BACK with Santa Clause. Sometimes it can be funny! Other times, it can break your freaking heart.

The USPS posted a collection of letters kids have sent Santa in an effort to promote the USPS Operation Santa project, where donors can help “Santa” deliver the gift in need for the less fortunate kids in their community. Most of them are asking for things for their parents (a futon, so they don’t have to sleep on the couch and have back pain, etc.), but one especially heartbreaking letter they shared from a young boy had him wanting no gift other than love.

The letter, shared by the USPS, was from a boy named Will. He wrote:

“Dear Santa, do you support the LGBTQ community and if you speak to god can you tell him that I love him, and if he loves me for being gay?”

That is the type of thing that hits you right in the feels. Direct hit. I don’t know how any parent can read that letter, from a kid who is just looking for love and acceptance in his life, and not feel something.

Fortunately, he did get a response to his letter (presumably?). The letter was featured in the trailer for a new documentary on the USPS Operation Santa, which premieres this month.

There are plenty of ways to give back to your community during the holidays, and helping a kid believe in the magic of Santa is not a bad way to go.

Oreo Releases Special Edition Rainbow Cookies To Celebrate LGBTQ+ Awareness Month

Oreo LGBTQ+ Rainbow Cookies
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Being a parent means loving our kids unconditionally. No matter who they are or who they love, it’s our job to make sure they feel valid and accepted. We can’t control what happens outside of our homes, but we can control what happens inside. When our LGBTQ+ kids enter the world, they will likely face far more challenges than their peers. But as parents, as their unwavering support system, we need to remind them that they’re not alone.

Though the LGBTQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or questioning) community has made a lot of progress in the past 50 years, we still have a long way to go in terms of allyship. It wasn’t until 1973 that homosexuality was even removed from the DSM II, meaning that before the 70s, being LGBTQ+ was considered a mental disorder. Laws have been made to prevent discrimination based on sexuality, and in 2015 (yes, just five years ago) gay marriage was legalized by the supreme court. Unfortunately, at the time, 14 states still clung to their same-sex marriage ban. Though opposition to gay marriage can’t be legally enforced, discrimination is still rampant throughout the US and beyond.

PFLAG is a national organization that promotes allyship and the celebration of diversity, particularly among families. PFLAG has partnered with Oreo to highlight the many challenges of being an LGBTQ+ person, particularly at home. Kids have an innate fear of disappointing their parents, and tragically, many members of the LGBTQ+ communities fear that their parents’ disappointment will stem from simply being who they are.

In honor of LGBTQ+ awareness month, Oreo released a special edition rainbow cookie to show their support for both the community and their allies. In addition to the cookies themselves, Oreo also released a moving short film called Proud Parent to underscore some of the challenges of being an LGBTQ+ person, particularly when introducing a same-sex partner to your family for the first time.

At the beginning of the film, Amy and her partner Jen prepare to visit Jen’s family. Jen’s dad is noticeably quiet throughout the interaction, and as a result, Jen is understandably hurt. Though the couple tries to enjoy their stay, watching Jen’s dad smile and laugh with other guests only reinforces the feeling of rejection. At the end of the film, Jen and Amy rush outside to see what Jen’s dad is doing. Jen’s eyes well with tears as he says, “did I do it right?” revealing the formerly-white picket fence in front of the family’s house, now painted as a vibrant rainbow.

The special edition cookies won’t be sold in stores, but 10,000 packs will be given away on Twitter and Instagram beginning on October 9. If you’re over 13 and are the proud owner of a Twitter or Instagram account, you can tag @OREO in a post and share what being an ally means to you. Use the hashtags #ProudParent and #Giveaway to boost their campaign, and your chances of winning.