“Just the other day, I was dealing with a meltdown from my newborn during a car ride. He absolutely detests car rides. Right next to him in the backseat, however, my two-year old was joyfully singing to himself. It amazed me that he was able to just drown out the glass-shattering screams from his younger brother.
I had to also remind myself that my older child hated car rides during his younger days. As you can see from the throwback photo, he did develop an ability to go from ‘Pissed-off to Zzzzz’ within two minutes flat once he was several months old.
It provided two great lessons for me, and maybe other parents who have dealt with similar situations can relate.
One, you will sometimes try to compare your kids and that’s okay. In my opinion, it’s human nature and you shouldn’t feel bad for doing it, as long as it’s not directly in front of your children. I know in that moment, I internally wished that my youngest kid was more like his big brother. And that he also came with a mute button.
That brings me to the second lesson I have realized as a parent. Sometimes, it’s good to observe how your kids handle situations. I was getting all tense from the wails of my tiny banshee, but then listening to my oldest just singing away brought a sense of calm to me. If he could handle it, then so could I, dammit.
At least until the point when my toddler decided to make it a screaming duet a few minutes later.”
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