“As you can see, my son and I have a pretty good relationship. He is a great little kid and I love him so much. Usually, this feeling is reciprocated, but when he is ill, only his mummy will do. Sounds like a pretty good deal, right? Wrong. If you have ever experienced this situation, then you will appreciate how hard it is for the non-favoured parent. This weekend, for example, my son came down with hand, foot and mouth. It’s a pretty nasty viral infection that left him in pain and, due to having ulcers in his mouth, unwilling to eat. It was difficult to see the little man in such a state, and to make matters worse he screamed the house down any time his mum put him down or went to the toilet.
I know what you’re thinking. ‘What a nightmare for her.’ And it is, but what about me? I mean, have you ever loved anyone unconditionally only for them to spend any period they are left alone with you holding their breath/hitting you/bellowing so loudly that I’m surprised the neighbours didn’t call the police? If you have, then you’ll know how utterly useless (and incredibly frustrated) I have felt every night this weekend – also please be aware that you are not alone or actually useless. If you haven’t, then I hope you never do.”
Stuart Hood, father-hood.co.uk
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