What Makes The Perfect BBQ?

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The Parents of Scary Mommy, The Dad and Fatherly Weigh In

 

A family BBQ is instantly recognizable, but no two are quite the same. Everyone has their own hard-earned and iron-clad opinions about everything from marinades to grill architecture. It’s the little details, the flourishes of technique, and the secret recipes that make each family’s BBQ both traditional and unique. We cornered the editorial staff of Scary Mommy, Fatherly, and The Dad to find out what makes their family BBQ the perfect BBQ.

Joel, Editor-In-Chief of The Dad

This is a pretty major dad-confession, but I’d rather cook on a cast iron than a grill or BBQ. Please don’t publish that!”  (Sorry Joel)

“But even when I do man the grill, the cast iron’s still great for veggies. I’ll cook asparagus in bacon grease with it directly on the grill. Also, this is 100% fact: ever since we did that Kroger story last year, I swear by their BBQ rubs for steak and chicken. I even use the Memphis Rub on salmon to give it a little sweet tang. So good.”

Brooke, Top Chef Winner & Scary Mommy Contributor

“For me, the perfect BBQ includes a very balanced plate of food. But not like four separate meals on one plate – I want a sweet and a sour, a rich, and an acidic. I like to hit all the notes. If it’s a rich marbled piece of meat, then I like to have a bright, acidic slaw.”

You can see Chef Brooke’s favorite BBQ staples here, and some fresh take on sides here.

Rob, writer for The Dad

“The defining factor is the type of meat you’re going for. It’s important to know your cuts – If it’s tenderness you seek, choose a cut from low-activity muscles like the loin – tenderloin, sirloin, T-bone – or ribs. Leaner, tougher cuts are great for flavor and texture – flank steak is perfect for fajitas. And for slow cooking and braising, look for tough, heavily exercised regions – the shoulder, leg, and rump – or places where there is a lot of connective tissue, like the shank, or oxtail.”

Rachel, writer for Scary Mommy

“We celebrate my brother’s birthday every year as a kick-off to the summer season. We make these amazing ribs by turning the normal charcoal grill into a DIY smoker. You lay the charcoal bricks with pre-soaked woodchips on one half of the grill, and a tin pan half-filled with a really good apple juice on the other. Light the grill under the wood chips, and cook the meat on the opposite end of the grill so you’re smoke circulates.”

Jared, writer for The Dad 

“For me, it’s about the sauce. I grew up in Florida, so BBQ was super sweet and syrupy when I was a kid. That rib-sticking stuff is still amazing, but I wrote a piece last year about the history and background for all the regional styles of BBQ, and it changed my whole game. I’m an honorary Carolina guy now – it’s all about that sharp vinegar base. I swiped all the Private Selection® Carolina rubs and sauces from The Dad studio, and now those are the only thing I use to grill chicken wings.”

Dave, Creative Director for The Dad / Scary Mommy

I love a classic steak as much as the next guy, but I’ve been really into trying different marinades lately. It’s fun to change up the flavor profile rather than cooking the same thing every weekend. I really love Chinese BBQ, so I’ll marinate a pork shoulder with char-sui cooking sauce. Also, chicken can go a lot further than you think when you spice it up with something like a Peruvian Aji Amarillo Marinade.”

Joanna, writer for Scary Mommy

“I love a turkey burger, but turkey is can be tricky to get right on the grill. Since it’s less fatty than beef, I’ll keep mine moist and juicy by placing an ice cube on the patty while it cooks. While it melts, the moisture gets absorbed by the meat! Or, if you want to be a little decadent, you could do the same thing with a tab of butter that you let sit in the freezer for a few minutes.”

Matt, writer & host for The Dad

Pizza stone on the grill, or even just pizza straight on the dang grill! I’ve been saying it for years! Simple Truth® has a gluten-free pizza crust mix that’s organic and non-GMO and all that good stuff. Or to turn boring ole’ weeknight frozen pizza into a *chef’s kiss* meal, there are a bunch of primo Private Selection™ pies that take just a couple minutes on the grill. Grilled mushrooms & truffle oil over a thin crust? Can’t beat it. It might not “BBQ” per se, but it’s cooking outside, and that’s what counts.”

Whether you’re throwing pizzas on the grill for a quick dinner or digging an honest BBQ pit to slow smoke something unforgettable, the heart of “the perfect BBQ” is really the joy it brings you and your family.

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After an Engine Failure, Teenager Lands Plane “Perfectly” on a Bridge in Traffic

An 18-year old pilot had some engine trouble and was able to, unbelievably, land the plane on a busy bridge in New Jersey. The stakes couldn’t be higher, and the kid nailed it. A perfect landing. 10/10. Not a single injury to himself or the plane. Truly incredible.

Landon Lucas was the teenager flying a banner plane for an aerial advertising company. Once the engine started having trouble, so he quickly dropped the banner in the ocean and headed for the airport. After realizing he might not get there, he spotted a gap in traffic on the 9th Street bridge and went for it.

This was in the middle of the day. Lunch hour. And he landed a plane in traffic. An Ocean City spokesman said “the pilot successfully landed with no damage to the plane and no injury to himself or any motorist.”

An eyewitness who happened to also be a pilot watched the landing from a boat and said it’s “really a challenge. I’m very proud of him, it’s really phenomenal he was able to do this safely.”

 Another witness called it a “perfect landing.” But Lucas? Couldn’t have been more nonplussed by the whole thing. He told a newspaper reporter that “it was just another day at work, but not an ideal one.”

And he broke it down very simply: “It was either water or bridge. There was a gap in traffic, and I went in. Being scared does nothing.” When asked how big the gap in traffic was, he responded “big enough.” Mic. Drop.

This kid is gonna go places, and wherever they are, he’s in for a smooth landing. 

New Balance’s Next-Level Dad Shoes Come Pre-Stained With Dirt and Ketchup

Dads and their New Balances go together like peanut butter and jelly, like a toddler and any toy that makes noise. Attempting to make the archetypal dad kicks even more “daddish” feels like a challenge to science itself – but the shoe geniuses at New Balance aren’t backing down. As a late Father’s Day celebration, New Balance released their newest 57/40 Sneakers as an homage to dedicated dads.

These 57/40s are a nod to the classic white New Balances, the sneakers we’ve lovingly worn until they can no longer legally be considered shoes. Rather than the sleek white finish waiting to be marked with memories of yard work and barbecues past, the 57/40s come pre-stained. It’s essentially a paint by numbers, but for all of the marks these shoes will inevitably earn.

New Balance may be a bit late with the Father’s Day release, but for the holy grail of dad shoes, every day is Father’s Day. It’s not just the classic style and reasonable price tag that makes NB’s the dad shoe, it’s their utility. The days of buying clothes and shoes for aesthetics only are long gone – we can’t afford to wear things that don’t serve a purpose.

With cargo shorts storing everything from fruit snacks to emergency toys and some well-loved New Balances laced up tight, we’re as prepared as we possibly can be to leave the house with our kids. The folks at New Balance know how much dads appreciate them, and now they’re showing their appreciation for dads with their newest 57/40s.

These next-level dad shoes feature subtle dirt stains along the shoe’s familiar clunky sole, and a few more smudges on the classic white leather. That’s right, these shoes are stained intentionally for the sake of style, which means that each and every one of us is basically an artist. The formerly-white laces as well as the bold New Balance “N” are stained with red and yellow spatters, symbolizing the ketchup and mustard of barbecues past, present, and future.

You can find these celebratory New Balances for $147 at select retailers.

Yippee-Ki-Yay, No More ‘Die Hard’ Prequel

Looks like we’re getting an early Christmas present this year! For a while there have been plans for a sixth Die Hard movie. This one was set to be John McLane’s “origin story.”  More on why that’s stupid later. But fortunately, it looks like the last few sequels and an Autozone commercial have squeezed every ounce of juice from the franchise. We will be spared -for now- watching a once-beloved character dragged out onto the stage and forced to dance for us as we barely look up from our phones. In other words, now that Disney has acquired Fox, the project has just died easy.

“Yeah, no, It’s not happening,” producer Lorenzo di Bonaventura said during a press junket for the new GI Joe prequel, Snake Eyes. The scrapped idea, which was at least a little different than the typical reboot, was to include Willis as the modern-day McLane. “What was interesting about our idea was it allowed you the ability to meet the young John McClane and use Bruce,”. “So it was really interesting in that way. So you sort of got to see both versions of him. A bit [like The Godfather Part 2].”

Yeah, I’m sure it was gonna be just like The Godfather Part 2.

So I say:  Good Riddance! The whole point of the first Die Hard was that McClane was just a regular guy. We learned everything we needed to know about him.  He was a cop, he was estranged from his wife, he hated technology. We don’t need more than that to inform his Nakatomi Plaza adventure.  It’s easy to think we’re going overboard with prequels and remakes lately, but it should also be said that not everything needs the superhero treatment.

35+ ‘Breaking Bad’ Quotes That Are The Very Epitome Of The Show

One, maybe twice, in a lifetime, a network will happen upon a show that is pure genius. A good show will hook its claws into viewers from the very first episode, much like shows like Friends or Mad Men did. It’ll offer something relatable but also offer an escape. Breaking Bad was just that show. On the surface, it was a about a dude named Walter White (Bryan Cranston) cooking meth. Something most Americans can’t relate to and probably look down on. In the very first episode, though, we met a very different man. We met a middle-class science teacher with cancer, crushing debt, with a healthcare system and government not keen on helping him. We met a man who only wanted to provide a decent life for his family and not be a burden. Now that is definitely relatable.

From there, we watched Walt learn to utilize the scientific knowledge he already had and use a connection with a hoodlum named Jesse (Aaron Paul). Soon, Walt was running a drug empire. Did he do some seriously sketchy shit? Yes, sir. But, he did it in the name of love… and survival. (Uh… mostly.) Who can fault a guy for that? Breaking Bad was a raging success and when it ended, many viewers were left absolutely crushed. Years later, we’re still talking about those final moments.

And, of course, years later we’re still quoting the show. If you’re looking to go down memory lane, these are some of our favorite quotes from Breaking Bad.

Perfect Breaking Bad Quotes From Walter White Himself

1. “I have spent my whole life scared, frightened of things that could happen, might happen, might not happen, 50-years I spent like that.”

2. “Finding myself awake at three in the morning. But you know what? Ever since my diagnosis, I sleep just fine.”

3. “What I came to realize is that fear, that’s the worst of it. That’s the real enemy. So, get up, get out in the real world and you kick that bastard as hard as you can right in the teeth.” –

4. “Well, technically, chemistry is the study of matter. But I prefer to see it as the study of change.”

5. “Is this just a genetic thing with you? Is it congenital? Did your… did your mother drop you on your head when you were a baby?”

6. “You clearly don’t know who you’re talking to, so let me clue you in. I am not in danger, Skyler. I am the danger. A guy opens his door and gets shot, and you think that of me? No! I am the one who knocks!”

7. “I mean, it’s just… it’s the constant, it’s the cycle. It’s solution, dissolution, just over and over and over. It is growth, then decay, then transformation. It is fascinating, really.”

8. “Right now, what I need is for you to climb down out of my ass. Can you do that? Will you do that for me, honey? Will you please, just once, get off my ass? You know? I’d appreciate it. I really would.”

9. “Walter Jr., you’re my big man. There are going to be some things that you’ll come to learn about me in the next few days. But just know that no matter how it may look, I only had you in my heart. Goodbye.”

10. “I did it for me. I liked it. I was good at it. And, I was really… I was alive.”

11. “I have lived under the threat of death for a year now. And because of that, I’ve made choices.”

12. “Jesse, you asked me if I was in the meth business or the money business… Neither. I’m in the empire business.”

13. “We tried to poison you. We tried to poison you because you are an insane, degenerate piece of filth and you deserve to die.”

14. “Say my name.”

15. “There is gold in the streets just waiting for someone to come and scoop it up.”

16. “We’re done when I say we’re done”

17. “If you don’t know who I am, then maybe your best course would be to tread lightly.”

18. “Fuck you and your eyebrows.”

19. “Smoking marijuana, eating Cheetos, and masturbating do not constitute plans in my book.”

Breaking Bad Quotes From Jesse Pinkman… Bitch!

20. “Did you know that there’s an acceptable level of rat turds that can go into candy bars? It’s the government, jack.”

21. “Ah, like I came to you, begging to cook meth. Oh, hey, nerdiest old dude I know, you wanna come cook crystal? Please. I’d ask my diaper-wearing granny, but her wheelchair wouldn’t fit in the RV.”

22. “We’re all on the same page. The one that says, ‘If I can’t kill you, you’ll sure as shit wish you were dead.’”

23. “Some straight like you, giant stick up his ass, age what, 60? He’s just gonna break bad?”

24. “Even the government doesn’t care that much about quality. You know what is okay to put in hot dogs? Huh? Pig lips and assholes. But I say, hey, have at it bitches ’cause I love hot dogs.”

25. “Yeah, Mr. White! Yeah, Science!”

26. “This is my own private domicile and I will not be harassed… bitch!”

Our Favorite Saul Goodman Quotes From Breaking Bad

27. “Scientists love lasers.”

28. “Congratulations, you’ve just left your family a second-hand Subaru.”

29. “Sending him on a trip to Belize.”

30. “I once told a woman I was Kevin Costner and it worked because I believed it.”

31. “Hey, I’m a civilian! I’m not your lawyer anymore. I’m nobody’s lawyer.”

32. “I’m not saying it’s not bad. It’s bad. But it could be worse.”

33. “The fun’s over. From here on out, I’m Mr. Low Profile. Just another douche bag with a job and three pairs of Dockers. If I’m lucky, a month from now, best-case scenario, I’m managing a Cinnabon in Omaha.”

34. If you’re committed enough, you can make any story work.”

More Breaking Bad Quotes From Everyone Else

35. “The moral of the story is…I chose a half measure when I should have gone all the way. I’ll never make that mistake again. No more half measures, Walter.” – Mike Ehrmantraut

36. “You are not the guy. You’re not capable of being the guy. I had a guy, but now I don’t. You are not the guy.” – Mike Ehrmantraut

37. “Just because you shot Jesse James, don’t make you Jesse James.” – Mike Ehrmantraut

38. “This kicks like a mule with its balls wrapped in duct tape!” – Tuco Salamanaca

39. “You know what Walt? Someone needs to protect this family from the man who protects this family.” – Skyler White

Olympian Says She Felt Her Late Dad’s Presence During Medal-Winning Race

Winning a medal at the Olympics is a dream come true, but it must be hard if you have a Dad-sized hole in your life. Katie Zaferes represented the United States well in the women’s triathlon, as she made the podium with a bronze medal finish. Maybe more than the medal, what made the moment special was feeling her late dad’s influence during her race.

She told reporters after the event that she made it midway through the triathlon when she saw a rainbow above her in the sky. To her, she knew what it was.

 

“I just gave a little, ‘Hi, Dad.’ I just feel  like that was him. I felt him,” she told reporters after the event. “I feel like he’d be so happy.”

Of course he would. He would be thrilled! Or is thrilled, wherever he is now. Before he was a rainbow in the sky helping his daughter win an Olympic medal, Bill Zaferes was responsible for introducing his daughter to the sport. He recently passed away in April. Zaferes said she had trouble in her competitions after he died, but that she definitely felt his presence during her race.

On Father’s Day, she posted a tribute to her late dad and his influence on her life. She said Father’s Day was the first time she ever did a triathlon, and it was something she did with him.

“I thought I was doing it for my dad, only to find out many years later it was all a scheme to get me interested in the sport,” she wrote.

 

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The two ended up doing many more triathlons together, culminating in Katie representing the US on the podium. But she will always remember running events with her dad. “He always had fun and came out with a story no matter what the scenario. He made me so proud.”

There is no doubt that she made him even prouder.

Hospital Turns Newborns Into Tiny Olympians

The Olympics are all what you make of it. If you get really into watching them, whether it’s for a specific sport (hockey! Gymnastics! Curling!?!), or just the thrill of the event, it can be a memorable experience. Of course, some people take it to the next level, like St. Luke’s Hospital in Kansas City.  These medical pros had a much-deserved laugh when they broke out the crocheted medals and Olympic attire for the babies born during the games.

Take anything relevant culturally and add it to cute newborns and you have a hit on your hands. Every parent probably feels like their newborn deserves a gold medal anyway. Although with our third, it’s my wife who deserves the medal, since that baby was pretty much a bowling ball.

A nurse said they planned to do this in order to bring some joy to families giving birth during the pandemic, and when the games were postponed, they held onto the idea. “I hope this is something families and babies can look back on over the years as something that made their delivery during the pandemic even more special and brought hope and encouragement,” she wrote.

Delivery is an emotional time, so honestly, everyone involved probably deserves a gold medal. That includes the dad because even the coaches get medals in team sports.

Ryan Reynolds Hosts First Xbox NPC Awards to Promote ‘Free Guy’

Video game NPCs (Non-Player Characters) rarely get the love and attention they deserve.  They provide us with story, items, and are just there if we want to find directions.  When you think about it, a video game would feel pretty empty without them.

In honor of those that await us to return quest items to them, Xbox and Ryan Reynolds are hosting the first (and according to Reynolds, probably last) Xbox Game Pass Non-Player Character Awards in association with Reynolds new film Free Guy.  The movie releases in theaters on August 13th and is all about an NPC named Guy who realizes he’s actually in a video game.  If anyone should be an advocate for all those NPCs that don’t get enough recognition, it’s Reynolds.

Among the video game NPC nominees are Parvati Holcomb (The Outer Worlds), Samuel Hayden (Doom Eternal), Chief Trader Mollie (Sea of Thieves), and Guy (Free Guy) himself.  The polls close on August 3rd, so if you’re interested in showing your support for all those lovely NPCs, you can vote down below.

Hawkeye Meets Hawkeye in First Look at Next Live Action Marvel Series

It’s clear now the MCU is going to use Disney+ content to expand their universe, and introduce the next wave of Avengering. Loki revealed Jonathan Majors as the next big bad (or rather, a “varient” of him), while the upcoming  What If…? series will likely have more to say about the new Infinity Stone level “thing” – the multiverse.

EW has given us the official first look at Jeremy Renner and Hailee Steinfeld in Hawkeye, debuting this fall. The series is about Clint Barton, aka Hawkeye, and Kate Bishop, the young, gifted fan of the archer who wants to follow in his footsteps. (And their dog.)

Kate Bishop is a fan favorite character from a comics, and fans have been eager to see her appear ever since we saw a clip of Clint training a young woman in the first Endgame trailer. That turned out to be his blipped daughter, but after years of rumors and hints, Disney finally confirmed Steinfeld will indeed take on the mantel of the Young Avenger.

“[Kate is] a 22-year-old kid and she’s a big Hawkeye fan,” Renner said. “She has a wonderfully annoying and equally charming manner about her, because she’s such a fangirl of Hawkeye. The relationship grows from that, but the biggest problem for Clint is Kate Bishop and the onslaught of problems that she brings into his life.”

No word yet on the full plot of Hawkeye, but *SPOILER ALERT FOR BLACK WIDOW INCOMING*  we do know that Florence Pugh’s Yelena, the new Black Widow, might be on the hunt for her sister’s best buddy. While we wait to find out more, Renner is busy getting his young costar acclimated to the Marvel universe.

“Outside of acting in the thing, I was protecting her and giving her the CliffsNotes on how it goes with this kind of filmmaking: Green screen, superhero life, all that stuff,” Renner says. “I just wanted to protect her, because there’s a lot of physical stuff. She’s a wonderful actress, a wonderful human, and I can’t wait to see all the cool stuff that she’s able to do.”

Neither can we! Hawkeye premieres on Disney+ on November 24th.

Adam: So Many Hats

“My husband grew up as an only child with no immediate family close by, so it was really just him and his parents. I think that really contributed to him wanting to be a dad and to have more than one kid.

When we first started dating, he told me he’d like a baseball team of kids! We aren’t at that status but we have just welcomed our fourth healthy babe into this world.

There are so many hats my Adam wears (US Army infantry Cpt., graduate student, husband) but the top hat of them all is the one he wears as a dad. Watching him learn and grow into it has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.

Our children look to him with perfect confidence in his ability to fix anything — from a skinned knee to a broken toy — and more importantly they know he will always take the time to do so. He loves teaching them, showing them, helping them grow and always takes that precious time to do so. He has learned to be a different father for all their different personalities and I hope he knows how special that is and that it’s not easy!

So often our fathers are pushed to the background of the parenting picture and I just want to give all the awesome dads out there a shout out. We see you, appreciate you and know your worth!”

– Morgan Nicholson

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